• Letting Go to Reel It In -- Ep. 008
    Jul 30 2025
    I just returned from a looong 2600 mile road trip to Nebraska and back, visiting friends and family, while getting some much needed R&R. Although the trip went off without a hitch, I found myself upside down and backwards quite a few times along the way. I tried to maintain my level of discipline on the road, as if I was home, and although found success in it for the first half — I quickly found myself climbing a sand hill once week 3 commenced. An internal battle had begun in an attempt to get me to have some fun. Finally, I let go. The strictness I tend to live with, went by the wayside, and I began enjoying some time not trying to be perfect. It was fun letting go for the first time in 2 years. It was refreshing to see how far I’ve come since I stopped leading a lifestyle that has me enjoying such things on a regular basis. However, I’m home now and I’m struggling to reel it back in. Now, given the fact we only have 3 more weeks until our 16-year old starts 11th grade, means I could let myself slide a little bit longer. But my old self is already beginning to surface as my body breaks down from the poor dietary choices and lack of solid sleep. This is why I have trouble letting go into vacation mode to begin with. Granted, my 31-day journey across the U.S. is not a normal vacation experience. But I know I’m not the only one out there who struggles with reeling it back in once the proverbial lure’s been thrown out again. So, How do we know when it’s time to let go? How do we determine when it’s time to become disciplined again? How do we enjoy ourselves at the appropriate times, in the appropriate ways, to feed that inner wolf without self-destruction rearing its ugly head?! These are the questions we’re focusing on in today’s episode, Let’s dive in. Follow our social media pages: Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/share/1FWsPpcm3H/?mibextid=wwXIfr⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@VeteranDadPodcast⁠⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/groups/13261037/⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/veteran_dad_podcast?igsh=a3M4OWY4ajN3bHg%3D&utm_source=qr⁠⁠ X/Twitter: ⁠⁠https://x.com/VetDadPodcast⁠⁠ Shoot us an email with any questions or requests at: veterandadpodcast@gmail.com
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    35 mins
  • Surrender Isn't Giving Up P.2 -- Ep. 007.2
    Jul 28 2025
    Part 2 of the 2-Part Interview with Dr. Carlos Garcia --------------------------- Episode Monologue: I crawled into 2020 not wanting to live anymore. The 11 year journey to rock-bottom led me down a path to better understanding why I was so fucked up. 5-years later and I’m on the mend, off the couch, and forward living for the first time since separating from the Military. Back in 2017 — I had set out to learn why so many other Veterans, like myself, struggled after service to create a life worth living again for themselves. It didn’t make sense to me that so many smart, strong, and capable human beings in their youths would become shells of their former selves decades after service. At this point, 22 brothers and sisters a day were still killing themselves post-war which was 18x more lives lost than in actual combat throughout the last 25 years. Through an immersion into my own healing journey and subsequent transformation from it — I feel like I can bring clarity to this continuing issue today. 8 years ago, there was no true definition of PTSD. Today, I innerstand my own enough to manage it and live forward again. Same with Fibromyalgia — a condition that has crippled me until now. Scientistsand doctors still don’t really know what it is — yet, I’ve learned to manage it and can live a physical life once again. A big part of this shift was accepting that I’ll never be a 25-year old Marine Sergeant again. I’ll never be able to train like a spartan warrior again. I’ll never be able to work 18-hour days, 100-hour weeks, and still hit the gym 5x through out it again. The big acceptance came from realizing that I don’t actually want those things for myself anymore. Part of this healing journey was learning who I actually was and who I am truly becoming. Accepting who I’ve been and who I am no longer. Which facing my mortality as a Marine and GOD-forbid physical maturity has been difficult to say the least. There is no glory, dying in your sleep at 65. There’s only glory in giving life for purpose. Yet, I have given life for purpose. I gave the better years of my youth to understanding the plight so many of us go through, losing friends, careers, and lucrative opportunities along the way. I needed to learn why I hated everyone and everything — especially myself. I knew back then, that no matter how successful I was externally, all the pain inside would lead me to ruining it. So I gave up everything for a better understanding of myself, which has become an immense innerstanding, and now I am mended living forward once again as I continue to heal and always stay figuring it out. I mean, if I eat avocado oil — forgetta bout it, inflamed, in-pain, and out of my mind for days. Yet I now know the causes of such pain and insanity allowing me to curtail my life to mitigate symptoms. However, I know there are actual cures out there for what we all face. Part of this podcast’s purpose is to chronicle known remedies and cutting-edge modalities while discovering new ones. Yet, healing will always start and end with the greatest common factor — YOU. You have to choose to go through the fear and pain to heal, as well as all the “nevers” you said you’d never do. Yet, on the other side of this surrender through humility is true happiness through relief. It starts with a choice and it can start today. Let’s Jump In. ---------------------------------- Follow our social media pages: Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/share/1FWsPpcm3H/?mibextid=wwXIfr⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@VeteranDadPodcast⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/groups/13261037/⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/veteran_dad_podcast?igsh=a3M4OWY4ajN3bHg%3D&utm_source=qr⁠ X/Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/VetDadPodcast⁠ Shoot us an email with any questions or requests at: veterandadpodcast@gmail.com
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    38 mins
  • Surrender Isn't Giving Up P.1 -- Ep. 007
    Jul 16 2025
    I crawled into 2020 not wanting to live anymore. The 11 year journey to rock-bottom led me down a path to better understanding why I was so fucked up. 5-years later and I’m on the mend, off the couch, and forward living for the first time since separating from the Military. Back in 2017 — I had set out to learn why so many other Veterans, like myself, struggled after service to create a life worth living again for themselves. It didn’t make sense to me that so many smart, strong, and capable human beings in their youths would become shells of their former selves decades after service. At this point, 22 brothers and sisters a day were still killing themselves post-war which was 18x more lives lost than in actual combat throughout the last 25 years. Through an immersion into my own healing journey and subsequent transformation from it — I feel like I can bring clarity to this continuing issue today. 8 years ago, there was no true definition of PTSD. Today, I innerstand my own enough to manage it and live forward again. Same with Fibromyalgia — a condition that has crippled me until now. Scientistsand doctors still don’t really know what it is — yet, I’ve learned to manage it and can live a physical life once again. A big part of this shift was accepting that I’ll never be a 25-year old Marine Sergeant again. I’ll never be able to train like a spartan warrior again. I’ll never be able to work 18-hour days, 100-hour weeks, and still hit the gym 5x through out it again. The big acceptance came from realizing that I don’t actually want those things for myself anymore. Part of this healing journey was learning who I actually was and who I am truly becoming. Accepting who I’ve been and who I am no longer. Which facing my mortality as a Marine and GOD-forbid physical maturity has been difficult to say the least. There is no glory, dying in your sleep at 65. There’s only glory in giving life for purpose. Yet, I have given life for purpose. I gave the better years of my youth to understanding the plight so many of us go through, losing friends, careers, and lucrative opportunities along the way. I needed to learn why I hated everyone and everything — especially myself. I knew back then, that no matter how successful I was externally, all the pain inside would lead me to ruining it. So I gave up everything for a better understanding of myself, which has become an immense innerstanding, and now I am mended living forward once again as I continue to heal and always stay figuring it out. I mean, if I eat avocado oil — forgetta bout it, inflamed, in-pain, and out of my mind for days. Yet I now know the causes of such pain and insanity allowing me to curtail my life to mitigate symptoms. However, I know there are actual cures out there for what we all face. Part of this podcast’s purpose is to chronicle known remedies and cutting-edge modalities while discovering new ones. Yet, healing will always start and end with the greatest common factor — YOU. You have to choose to go through the fear and pain to heal, as well as all the “nevers” you said you’d never do. Yet, on the other side of this surrender through humility is true happiness through relief. It starts with a choice and it can start today. Let’s Jump In. Follow our social media pages: Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/share/1FWsPpcm3H/?mibextid=wwXIfr⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@VeteranDadPodcast⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/groups/13261037/⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/veteran_dad_podcast?igsh=a3M4OWY4ajN3bHg%3D&utm_source=qr⁠ X/Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/VetDadPodcast⁠ Shoot us an email with any questions or requests at: veterandadpodcast@gmail.com
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    32 mins
  • Dad-Life Balance Ep. -- 006
    Jul 9 2025
    How do we balance being a dad and still being a human being.? I love being a dad but dadding non-stop makes me delirious and I begin not liking my kid. In reality, it’s a reflection of how part of me feels about the rest of me which is then projected outward to be noticed and addressed. I’ve come to distinctly recognize 3 different elements of myself; ego, human, and spirt / higher self. Carl Jung aptly named them the id, ego and super-ego. Each part of “myself” has different needs, wants and desires. Part of walking a spiritual path is learning how to align all those parts of ourselves to one focus and walk through life in what is often-referred to as “heart centered.” This entails operating from a more calm, balanced, and neutral state as to avoid emotional reactions and instead make rational decisions. One of the biggest issues I’ve had to deal with since exiting the Corps has been emotional regulation. A big reason I avoided committed relationships and having a family until now was because I couldn’t manage my emotions worth anything and the idea of hurting the people closest to me was out of the question. I became selfish and self-serving while not actually serving myself properly. My wife Heather has truly helped me earn back my big boy pants — emotionally speaking again by weathering the tornadoes and hurricanes that have come her way. Standing tall as my mirror, she helped me see that — how I was being was not in-fact who I am and I am capable of so much more. I began to observe, through our relationship, that I often stopped serving myself when others were around to serve. I would go above and beyond, running myself ragged, as I tried to be perfect for those around me. The self-neglect would go unnoticed and eventually I would blow up and out at the very people I’m doing everything to serve perfectly. Then my baby girl comes along and although she is a tiny, able-less being, I’m still finding myself getting bitter and resentful towards her as time goes on and I ware down. I don’t want to raise my daughter with a cold-shoulder or a trist tongue, so now is the time to check this; what am I doing wrong? I’m serving everyone else but myself. I’m living selflessly selfish and in-turn pissing in everybody’s cheerios who I love and take care of. It’s not about wanting to take proper care of myself, it’s a necessity that I do or I will destroy all that I’ve climbed tooth and nail to attain. The choice is mine alone to make. So what is a Dad-Life Balance? What does it entail? Let’s dive in. Follow our social media pages: Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/share/1FWsPpcm3H/?mibextid=wwXIfr⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@VeteranDadPodcast⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/groups/13261037/⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/veteran_dad_podcast?igsh=a3M4OWY4ajN3bHg%3D&utm_source=qr⁠ X/Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/VetDadPodcast⁠ Shoot us an email with any questions or requests at: veterandadpodcast@gmail.com
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    38 mins
  • No Pity Pancakes -- Ep. 005
    Jul 2 2025
    For years — any emotional disturbance I had was either expressed aggressively or bottled up inside for a “rage out” at a later time. It took me years to draw correlation between the downplaying and expressing of my true feelings and all the rage I still contained inside. As time went, self control became a novelty, and the emotional triggers began consuming me. Eventually, I couldn’t maintain relationships, work a job, or build businesses due such rage outs. So I relegated myself to my foxhole and prayed I’d make it out alive. After many years of sitting and observing myself objectively within this game of Life, I’ve come to comprehend why I am — the way I am, in such emotional circumstances. I disregard how I feel regularly because I feel bad about potentially making others feel bad. For instance, this past Saturday — after a long week of hooking and jabbing, I wanted chocolate pancakes with the family. After sleeping into until noon for a much needed rest day, we all rendezvous’d in the kitchen for pre-breakfast planning. Usually, my step-daughter and I, one-two punch the job together but after 5-days of school and an 8-hour shift at work on Saturday — her willingness to participate was minuscule. However, I had been wanting pancakes for 3-days. Instead of making them when I wanted them, I chose to wait, because I felt bad and hoped to have them on Sunday together as a family. Upon hearing she didn’t want to make pancakes with me, I immediately morphed into my 14-year old self and through a silent fit. She instantly saw my face turn sour and attempted to course-correct by saying she’ll make them. Obviously, it was too late and I cut off my nose despite my face. I didn’t want pity pancakes! I wanted her to WANT to make the pancakes because a voluntold effort (as we know all too well) always comes up half-assed. I tell her not to worry about it as I fume at the table. Seeing that I needed a moment, she decides on avocado toast and begins preparing it to eat. In the middle of my mental foray, I ask myself why pancakes would make me so mad? Why would the idea of an exhausted 16-year old not wanting to make pancakes with me after a long 6-day week would upend me so badly? I chose to stop fuming in the moment and begin feeling into the sensations I was feeling — “I don’t feel appreciated.” That was the underlying feeling I had at the table fuming. Yet, I know for a fact my step-daughter and wife constantly make me feel appreciated. So what was it? Then it clicked — I didn’t feel appreciated by my own self and I was projecting outward onto my step-daughter in personal frustration. Some part of me wanted Chocolate pancakes on Thursday. That part of me was now expecting them on Sunday. After a long week of serving everyone else, I’m mad at myself because I don’t have the perceived energy to now serve myself. That’s bullshit — I thought to myself. All this revelation happening in real-time. So I march into the kitchen and begin making some Daggohn chocolate pancakes. Instantly, I begin calming down. I needed to be appreciated — to be seen, heard, and acknowledged in that moment, not from others but from myself. This is called Mirror Theory… Let’s Dive In! Follow our social media pages: Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/share/1FWsPpcm3H/?mibextid=wwXIfr⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@VeteranDadPodcast⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/groups/13261037/⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/veteran_dad_podcast?igsh=a3M4OWY4ajN3bHg%3D&utm_source=qr⁠ X/Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/VetDadPodcast⁠ Shoot us an email with any questions or requests at: veterandadpodcast@gmail.com
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    37 mins
  • Wasps in a Row -- Ep. 004
    Jun 25 2025
    This past Saturday, my wife Heather and I were hanging out in the living room playing with Penny, our daughter. With spring in the air, we had our balcony door open with our magnet screen curtain closed. Rain was on the way making it a gray hazy lazy Saturday. After a long week, my wife and I were cooked and thus lounging was more necessity than want at this point. Sore, stiff — close to 40, Saturday ain’t for the boys anymore but more so for the joints. My wife had seen a yellow jacket fly off onto the balcony which immediately caught my guard. Every American father has an eternal war raging with wasps and hornets — it’s just one of those unspoken agreements within the animal kingdom. Wasps MUST make nests in extremely inconvenient places while posing a major risk to all warm-blooded creatures and Human Men are forced to annihilate them to demonstrate their virtue and protect their flock. It is what it is. I quickly move to the magnet screen, my eyes darting back and forth — scanning for the threat. I first hear the audible buzz as the hairs on the back of my neck perk up. Then, I spot him. This joker is flying right for me. I feel like Sammy Sosa waiting on a juicy change-up to cork bat it 5000 yards out of the park — whack! I nail him square but I wait because I know this bugger ain’t through. Wasps aren’t typically smart but they are certainly resilient and fearless — like Marines, respect is forming in real-time. I see him come around again. This time, I go UFC on his ass and straight Anderson Silva this guy as he flies into the concrete. Still alive, he walks in circles for a bit trying to gain his marbles. Part of me wants to go finish the job but this other, louder part of me, is even more impressed with how bad ass this little dude is. He gets back up and flies at me again, a third time, but not aggressively. Being a man of faith and belief in the interconnectedness of all things, I try my best to not kill if I don’t have to. I’ve also experienced signs being sent from GOD through the animal kingdom before and This entire situation seemed different then you’re typical dad vs. wasp American Summer battle. As the wasp is flying towards me again, I let him land on the magnet curtain in front of me and I ask out loud, “are you a messenger?” Immediately I got a “yes” in my mind’s eye and the Wasp flies off on his own volition. My wife and I, taken aback, immediately look up “Wasp Spirit Animal” on google which talks about being more focused at home on nurturing the family. Obviously confused, I prayed to GOD for clarity. How could I not be focused at home — I’m literally here, all-the-time. After falling asleep for a couple hours in-between feedings for Penny — I woke up with that clarity. Although I now have my priorities — I don’t have them straight and this is causing me resistance and suffering. Fatherhood comes first now but what does that even mean? Let’s dive in. Follow our social media pages: Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/share/1FWsPpcm3H/?mibextid=wwXIfr⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@VeteranDadPodcast⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/groups/13261037/⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/veteran_dad_podcast?igsh=a3M4OWY4ajN3bHg%3D&utm_source=qr⁠ X/Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/VetDadPodcast⁠ Shoot us an email with any questions or requests at: veterandadpodcast@gmail.com
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    45 mins
  • Faith and Fear -- Ep. 003
    Jun 18 2025
    What does it mean to allow your faith to be bigger than your fears? Faith is the anti-thesis to fear because fear is based in the unknown and faith is founded in belief. To allow fear to run your life while claiming to have faith is living counter-intuitive and in-turn chaotic. Faith irons out the wrinkles of the unknown by allowing trust in something bigger than YOU — that is still YOU, to fill in the gaps where our knowledge is limited. Anytime we do anything new, fear of the unknown is present. After a while, that novel thing that once frightened us becomes normal and we can now operate within that perceived fear with confidence instead of trepidation. GOD will always ask us to face our fears, nopes, and nevers — especially when walking a path of faith. Faith is still having confidence even when faced with the unknown because you can accept that you’re a part of something much grander than your self-limiting human perceptions. Life challenge’s us for a reason. If it were easy — we’d get bored. Hell, many of us ran into the Military to escape the boring and mundane reality we were already trapped in. Although the thought of serving in combat, being away from family, and getting treated like a slave scared us. The idea of being stuck where we were, going nowhere fast, and ending up in jail, dead, or under an over-pass put the fear of GOD in us. So we lept into the unknown — facing our fears, gaining experience, earning confidence in the idea that we are strong, fierce, and capable. We ride this truth through our years of service before separating, again, into the unknown World from whence we came. Those old fears waiting for us like a childhood bully after school. Yes, we’re older, wiser, and more experienced yet — so many of us still don’t know how to live outside a brotherhood and we fail to live even if seemingly crushing it outside in civilian life. This leads to broken confidence, a loss of faith, and eventually fear-based anxiety. To get back what we once lost, we must adopt that old mentality of strength, fierceness, and capability. It was originally motivated out of us from the depths of our being by the brother or sister to the left and right of us. Now — you have to be that for yourself. Your brothers aren’t next to you anymore and you’re on your own. But are you really? Again, faith fills the gaps left by a lack of knowledge. When you perceivably have nothing and nobody — what’s left? Death or GOD. It’s been said that the craziest thing a man can do is to let himself die. In my opinion, the craziest thing a man can do in the 21st century is to actually allow himself to live. Many of us are out here, stuck in fear, mad at GOD, and simply marking time until we checkout for good. But it doesn’t have to be like this. You got to let your faith be bigger than your fear — this is the start of how; Let’s dive in. Follow our social media pages: Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/share/1FWsPpcm3H/?mibextid=wwXIfr⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@VeteranDadPodcast⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/groups/13261037/⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/veteran_dad_podcast?igsh=a3M4OWY4ajN3bHg%3D&utm_source=qr⁠ X/Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/VetDadPodcast⁠ Shoot us an email with any questions or requests at: veterandadpodcast@gmail.com
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    39 mins
  • Killing Time -- Ep. 002
    Jun 13 2025
    When we were under contract and in-service to Uncle Same, “killing time” was a prerequisite of the job. Our indentured servitude warranted such a mentality because “hurry up and wait” wasn’t just a statement — it was the military’s motto and moniker. I remember one year at the gas chamber. We got there around 6:45AM, which means we were in formation at 5:45AM, only to drive 15-minutes up the road to where it was located, and then waited until 9:30AM to start forming up to do it. That being said, We had 2-hours “to kill.” So I took my cover, put it in the middle of the thunderdome we were under and proceeded to throw rocks into it for fun. Within 15- minutes, all you see are rocks from all climbs and places flying at this cover. Monkey-see, monkey-do — I guess we were out of crayons that morning. Yet, even after getting out, I still find myself “killing time” as a means of “leisure,” especially with social media (sm). When I kill time with sm — it often triggers me one way or another. From that point, I’m less present with my family and more irritable. I lose my humility and start moving into an ego space that has me taking things personal and often in the wrong way. My wife and I start implementing “no device” Sundays and we saw an immediate shift in our energy, anxiety, and irritability. It felt like I could breathe again. Then comes Monday, I get back on it, and all my old self ways re-surface. In order to maintain my humility and choose my life, every day, I have to achieve balance — emotional balance above all. By removing the crutches, I can learn to stand on my own two feet again. I no longer want to kill time. I want to finally live my life. This is chosen every single day when I look at myself and ask, “who am I today?” Ready to make the shift with me? let's jump in. Follow our social media pages: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/1FWsPpcm3H/?mibextid=wwXIfr YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@VeteranDadPodcast LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/13261037/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/veteran_dad_podcast?igsh=a3M4OWY4ajN3bHg%3D&utm_source=qr X/Twitter: https://x.com/VetDadPodcast Shoot us an email with any questions or requests at: veterandadpodcast@gmail.com
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    35 mins