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This is a collection of writings by the world famous author Steve Pavlina. The following topics are contained in this audio recording: HOW TO DISCOVER YOUR LIFE PURPOSE IN ABOUT 20 MINUTES, THE #1 REASON PEOPLE FAIL AT 30-DAY CHALLENGES, HOW TO DO EVERYTHING WRONG, PLAYING THE MONEY GAME, WHAT ARE THE ODDS OF BECOMING A BLACK BELT? REMOVE A LIMITING BELIEF IN ABOUT 20 MINUTES, TAPPING THE PROMISE OF PERSONAL GROWTH.

How abundant can your relationship life become? Are there any real limits to what you can experience and enjoy with willing partners? In this article I'll share some candid thoughts about creating more depth in open relationships, including what I'm interested in exploring next. I really appreciate this exploration of open relationships that I've been undertaking for the past 4 years. It's been a transformational experience to say the least, not all at once but as a gradual process of unfolding and maturing over time.

This is a collection of writings by the world famous author Steve Pavlina. The following topics are contained in this audio recording: Understanding human relationships, make people feel good, how to help negative people, how to decide when to end a long term relationship, understanding family relationship problems, ridiculously rewarding relationships.

It’s amazing how much time and energy people waste stressing over money, reacting to financial setbacks as if money is life itself. What’s the point of playing the money game? Is it to amass a fortune? Of course not. You’re going to lose it all when you die anyway. The point is to enjoy the experience, have fun, and grow from it. The money game isn’t your enemy. It’s your teacher.

I'll share the specific process I use to write articles, from initial concept to final publication, including the step-by-step details. If this topic interests you, hopefully you’ll gain some insights that will help you improve your craft of writing. I don't write the way I was taught in school, nor do I write like many people would expect. I can’t guarantee that my approach will work for you, but there’s no doubt that it works well for me. Obviously I write a lot, and I like to think I've gotten pretty good at it.

Many people identify with their minds, treating their minds as synonymous with themselves. This is problematic when it comes to personal growth because it encourages us to wrap our egos into our mental functioning. When our minds behave poorly, we’ll tend to defend our mistakes instead of diagnosing and solving problems in our thinking.

This is a collection of writings by the world famous author Steve Pavlina. The following topics are contained in this audio recording: Understanding human relationships, understanding family relationship problems, how to invite cuddling without inviting sex, how to decide when to end a long term relationship, ridiculously rewarding relationships.

Self-discipline is the ability to get yourself to take action regardless of your emotional state. Imagine what you could accomplish if you could simply get yourself to follow through on your best intentions no matter what.

You become an achiever by achieving your goals. If you achieve your goals, you're an achiever. If you don't achieve your goals, you're not an achiever. This is a simple, binary way to think about achievement. To achieve means to reach, attain, or accomplish. What you choose to reach, attain, or accomplish is up to you.

Virtually every time management system teaches that you must prioritize your projects to make sure you're working on what's truly important instead of getting caught up in minor things. However, few systems explain precisely how to do this.

Many people fail with 30-day challenges, usually not making it past the first week. And the #1 reason for failure is that they didn't make a crystal clear commitment to do a specific activity for all 30 days. Giving your mind a clear enough commitment is a key to success with 30-day challenges.

Sometimes people dive into new projects because they really want to make some money or to "get something going". They put pressure on themselves to start a project mainly for the sake of trying to create some forward momentum. While forward momentum can be a beautiful thing, I would actually recommend against this approach. Usually when I see people try to motivate themselves like this, their projects fizzle out.

One of the most important relationship lessons I learned was this: The relationships we have with other people are projections of the relationships we have within ourselves.

Many people have a hard time accepting the responsibility of being in control, so they yield this control to someone else. But no matter what, time is passing. You have the same number of days this month that anyone else has... You Have More Control Than You Think. Are you willing to take it?

Many people ask me how to develop a better connection to their desires, passions, and major life interests. I know that a lot of people feel bored, checked out, and unclear about what goals to pursue. Let me share some of my favorite shortcuts to help you figure out what drives you.

The typical American office worker only does about 90 minutes of real work per workday. The rest of each workday is largely spent on distractions like reading the news, web surfing, socializing with coworkers, snacking, taking coffee breaks, shuffling papers around, processing irrelevant emails, needless delay tactics, playing games, and daydreaming. Moreover, American office workers are among the world’s most productive. In many other countries, even less work gets done each day. This stat hasn't changed much in decades.

We are what we make ourselves to be. From one perspective we’re all separate individuals. From another perspective we can see ourselves as a unified whole. Imagine a gigantic sheet of aluminum foil with billions of tiny indentations in it, like protruding fingers. As individuals we’re the dents. Collectively we’re the foil. You can choose to adopt either perspective, or switch back and forth. As an individual your power is limited. You’re just a dent in a sea of other dents. But you have an interesting perspective on the whole sheet. No other dent sees the same picture you do.

The nice thing about working on your personal growth is that when you make a concerted, dedicated effort to improve some part of your life, there's an excellent chance that you will succeed in the long run. You may have a lot of gunk to clear out in terms of limiting beliefs, and you may be starting from a disadvantaged position, but given enough time, it’s entirely possible.

Suppose a group of superintelligent aliens came to earth. Or suppose that humans developed some advanced A.I. that’s far beyond our mental and physical abilities. If we could somehow communicate with these beings, what might we say to them? We might be too scared to say anything. We might just run and hide. But if we could manage our fear enough to say something, we can imagine some possible scenarios.

When you desire to attract and meet a new relationship partner, a common approach is to be more social, start connecting with new people, and try to be as likeable as possible. I think that’s a mistake.