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Episode 7- Let me count the ways

Introduction:

Susan Scott: She is a best‐selling author and leadership development architect. She has enabled top executives worldwide to engage in vibrant dialogue with one another, their employees, and their customers for two decades. With nearly 1 million books sold, Susan Scott makes it clear what gets discussed in a relationship and how it gets talked about determines whether a relationship will thrive, flat-line, or fail. Through courageous, passionate storytelling her new book provides an entertaining, relevant, and optimistic approach to relationship building that will connect couples at a deeper level. Fierce Conversations — Achieving Success at Work and in Life, One Conversation at a Time was published in 4 countries and, shortly thereafter, was listed in The Wall Street Journal and was one of USA TODAY’S top 40 business books of 2002. Her much anticipated second book — Fierce Leadership: A Bold Alternative to the Worst “Best” Practices of Business Today hit The Wall Street Journal and The New York Times best-seller lists. Susan and her company are committed to large‐scale and individual transformation through the principles set forth in Susan’s books and her company’s customized corporate training programs. For 13 years, Susan ran think tanks for CEOs and designed and delivered training to peers working with CEOs in 18 countries.

Gina London: She is an award-winning former CNN correspondent and anchor who is now a renowned expert on the language of leadership. Based in Ireland, she coaches executives and elected officials on how to improve their engagement through deliberate communications. It's not a soft skill, it's a critical skill. Gina is a high-energy speaker, moderator, and emcee. She's a regular media analyst on national radio and TV and writes a regular column called the 51st State for the Sunday Independent, Ireland's largest circulation newspaper.

Highlights of the Episode:

This conversation is all about appreciation and staying current with your partner. In Ken Blanchard’s One Minute Manager, he says that the best way to give feedback is in real-time. I wholeheartedly agree and believe that in order to have a fierce relationship, giving feedback three hundred and sixty-five days a year and face-to-face (if possible) is required. When your partner is doing something you love, tell them! Let giving them one minute or less of gratitude be your default setting instead of regularly resorting to negativity. What are some things you appreciate about your partner? When was the last time you told them that?

Giving moments of gratitude in the moment can take your relationship deeper than a thoughtless “I love you” because the specific and unique reasons we love our partner are often the most meaningful. This holiday season, in what ways can you offer positive feedback to your partner? Are they all-stars at packing for the whole family? Do they thrive being around your relatives? Let them know and watch your love grow!

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Episode 6- How are we really?

Introduction:

Susan Scott: She is a best‐selling author and leadership development architect. She has enabled top executives worldwide to engage in vibrant dialogue with one another, their employees, and their customers for two decades. With nearly 1 million books sold, Susan Scott makes it clear what gets discussed in a relationship and how it gets talked about determines whether a relationship will thrive, flat-line, or fail. Through courageous, passionate storytelling her new book provides an entertaining, relevant, and optimistic approach to relationship building that will connect couples at a deeper level. Fierce Conversations — Achieving Success at Work and in Life, One Conversation at a Time was published in 4 countries and, shortly thereafter, was listed in The Wall Street Journal and was one of USA TODAY’S top 40 business books of 2002. Her much anticipated second book — Fierce Leadership: A Bold Alternative to the Worst “Best” Practices of Business Today hit The Wall Street Journal and The New York Times best-seller lists. Susan and her company are committed to large‐scale and individual transformation through the principles set forth in Susan’s books and her company’s customized corporate training programs. For 13 years, Susan ran think tanks for CEOs and designed and delivered training to peers working with CEOs in 18 countries.

Gina London: She is an award-winning former CNN correspondent and anchor who is now a renowned expert on the language of leadership. Based in Ireland, she coaches executives and elected officials on how to improve their engagement through deliberate communications. It's not a soft skill, it's a critical skill. Gina is a high-energy speaker, moderator, and emcee. She's a regular media analyst on national radio and TV and writes a regular column called the 51st State for the Sunday Independent, Ireland's largest circulation newspaper.

Highlights of the Episode:

Relationships that fail or flat line do so because they didn’t take a temperature check throughout the relationship. They didn’t check in with each other. They let too many “gradually” become one big “suddenly.” When you aren’t consistently checking in with each other, couples can break up because they’ve lost their ability to tolerate each other. In this conversation, you face the facts. In what ways are you different from your partner and how much does that impact your relationship?

A study done in Australia concluded that “communication problems” were the number one reason couples divorced. Communication is critical. What topic are you avoiding with your partner? Whether it’s your finances, sex life, or even addiction, you must talk about it if you want your relationship to survive!

This conversation is a great start. In Susan’s upcoming book, Fierce Love: Creating a Love That Lasts – One Conversation at a Time, she’ll give you step-by-step instructions on how you and your partner can get to know each other’s similarities, differences, quirks, negotiable, non-negotiable, fears, dreams, and behaviors. Avoiding this conversation in your relationship is not going to do you any favors.

Susan Scott: She is a best‐selling author and leadership development architect. She has enabled top executives worldwide to engage in vibrant dialogue with one another, their employees, and their customers for two decades. With nearly 1 million books sold, Susan Scott makes it clear what gets discussed in a relationship and how it gets talked about determines whether a relationship will thrive, flat-line, or fail. Through courageous, passionate storytelling her new book provides an entertaining, relevant, and optimistic approach to relationship building that will connect couples at a deeper level. Fierce Conversations — Achieving Success at Work and in Life, One Conversation at a Time was published in 4 countries and, shortly thereafter, was listed in The Wall Street Journal and was one of USA TODAY’S top 40 business books of 2002. Her much anticipated second book — Fierce Leadership: A Bold Alternative to the Worst “Best” Practices of Business Today hit The Wall Street Journal and The New York Times best-seller lists. Susan and her company are committed to large‐scale and individual transformation through the principles set forth in Susan’s books and her company’s customized corporate training programs. For 13 years, Susan ran think tanks for CEOs and designed and delivered training to peers working with CEOs in 18 countries.

Gina London: She is an award-winning former CNN correspondent and anchor who is now a renowned expert on the language of leadership. Based in Ireland, she coaches executives and elected officials on how to improve their engagement through deliberate communications. It's not a soft skill, it's a critical skill. Gina is a high-energy speaker, moderator, and emcee. She's a regular media analyst on national radio and TV and writes a regular column called the 51st State for the Sunday Independent, Ireland's largest circulation newspaper.

Highlights of the Episode:

There are conditions to love and it’s important to define them. The question you’re asking yourself (and then eventually with your partner) is “what conditions are necessary for us to both stay committed and happy in this relationship?”

Define these conditions for yourself, and then define them with your partner. Is monogamy a must? What are your deal breakers? What do you want for yourself and your relationship? What areas will you need to compromise?

Clarifying your conditions is how you can create a relationship that actually lasts and this conversation can even be energizing. When you align your goals and values, you start to believe in what you can achieve together and are able to have deeper conversations like this more often.

This conversation tends to bring couples closer together because it allows a depth of understanding that didn’t once exist. When your understanding is deepened, you pave the way for a long-term, healthy relationship that enriches over time.